Wednesday, November 3, 2010

Dispatch from London

Tube strike wreaks havoc on my life (and London, in general):  Today's tube strike brought gridlock to London, and a virtual standstill to Underground operations.  Limited services meant some lines were completely suspended; some stations were completely closed, and where trains were running they were infrequent and overcrowded.  I used a combination of taxi, private hire car service, tube, and walking.  


London map starts to stick in my head by way of my feet:  I covered a good part of London on foot today from Oxford Circus to Soho to Leicester Square to Trafalger Square to Westminster to Waterloo.  I lost my bearings a few times, and started off in the wrong direction, but quickly reoriented and got on my way.  I think I'm finally beginning to connect London.  I've got the Southwark down from Waterloo to the Tate Modern to The Cut, onward east to London Bridge and Canary Wharf. I also think I get Vauxhall and Battersea Power Plant in the other direction on the south side of the Thames.  Today I connected some of the northern side, but without a sense of the river nearby, I get completely dizzy disoriented.   Still, I think I now have a sense of Westminster to Hyde Park, Marble Arch and Edgware Road.  As well as how Piccadilly Circus, Oxford Street, Regent Street, Soho, Chinatown, and Leicester Square connect - though I have to say, I am not so interested here.  Tomorrow, I may actually get to Brick Lane.  It's amazing how walking will get you through and around a city - it's finally clicking.


New jet lag remedy discovered: Travel the first week of November, the week between the time changes in Europe and the US.  For one week only, when London has already changed back to standard time and before the US changes to standard time a week later, the time difference is just 4 hours.  Jet lag is 20% easier to overcome than the rest of the year!

Sunday, October 31, 2010

Two Cool Cats

Happy Halloween


Weekend List - Me, all me!

Carve jack o'lanterns  - Not our best this year
Roast pumpkin seeds - Yummy
Pay bills
File financial documents Q3  - Stabilized, hoping for solid by end of the year :-)
Do laundry
Put it away
Bake banana bread - Delish, with walnuts and chocolate chips
Swim 40 minutes
Buy apples and cider at farmer's market
Early Vote!
Shop for clothes/shoes  - Success!
Eat out Saturday night - My second lobster roll this week!
Laze around in bed, drinking coffee, reading paper - Indulgence
Short hike
Swim 30 minutes - Again!
Return boots, exchange shoes
Trick-or treat
Begin London packing/piling
Go grocery shopping  - Oh well, it's a short list for tomorrow, and we have milk for coffee
Make food for the troops for the days, I'm gone - Didn't happen

Phew, what a weekend...very productive, and I'm tired.  It's not always like this - but it sure was satisfying.

Sometimes you have to kiss a few frogs...

I saw it coming.  As we walked and paused to admire some funky pumpkins, he leaned into me.  A few moments later, he touched my arm, and I (against my better judgment, but following the stage directions) let my fingers graze his elbow.   A pregnant pause.  "Here it comes," I thought.  His thin fish lips came toward me in a grotesque twisty pucker, and landed on my mouth which knew the drill and went into the pucker reflex.  It was short and tepid, kind of like kissing a frog.   I withdrew, smiled, and said, "Thank you for a lovely dinner.  I had a nice time."  "Hello, I must be going," my sub-conscious screamed with alarm.

A first (and last) kiss.  Sigh.  More adventures in dating...and yes, I did extract myself - as directly and kindly, as possible -  the following day.

Friday, October 29, 2010

London-bound

I'm off to London again next week - Tuesday through Saturday.  This will be my 3rd trip there since May - not bad for a non-profit job doing social good.  I've been setting up meetings, and have been highly dependent on Google maps and the kindness of my Brit colleagues to guide my journey on the underground and on the surface.  I always get a little smile on my face when I hear London place names.  Next week's destinations include Waterloo, Piccadilly, Baker Street (Bakerloo line), Westminster Bridge, East Ham, and Uxhall!  Lucky me!

Monday, October 25, 2010

Blog Stats for La Nouvelle Observatrice (and random things we can glean from all that)

Blogger provides real-time stats on page views, referring sources, and audience.  The stats tracking has only been available since July, but it has provided me with endless fascination, inspiration, and imagination on my readership out there on the World Wide Web!  I have turned off tracking of my own page views from my home and work computers, so all current stats only reflect my 5 or so known readers, and the other random people who stumble across the writings of La Nouvelle Observatrice.  There are lots of things I don't know from the stats tracking, like unique users/viewers, and those of you who visit time and time again. Welcome one and all, please browse around, and feel free to follow or comment.  And don't worry, I have no idea who you are.

With one week still left in October, I had already surpassed my all time high of monthly page views - though I'm still just a blip out there in cyberspace. And that exciting milestone - spurred by my love of both metrics and blogging - inspired this post.

Click through to see some other interesting facts on my reader stats:

Sunday, October 24, 2010

Menu: Fall Harvest Supper for a Dozen or So Good People


Mexican Mole Chili
- brimming with beans, corn, peppers, and flavored with rich, deep mole sauce
(vegetarian or turkey) 

Corn Muffins
- with sweet cream butter and honey

Spinach Salad
- with walnuts and dried cherries & champagne vinaigrette

Apple Crisp
- served warm with homemade ginger ice cream


Wine, Oktoberfest beer, Cider



Friday, October 22, 2010

Fabulous real estate!!

Once again, the NYTimes has written an article just for me - Who Lives There - Making a Home in a Pyramid 462 Feet Above Seattle.  This one is on the space and its inhabitants of a 2-story, 1700+ ft2 pyramid apartment atop the Smith Building in downtown Seattle.

The common living space - LR, DR, K - sits on the second floor of the apartment, while the nook-like bedrooms sit on the first floor.    Built-in shelves and window seats house books and eclectic collectibles (like empty bottles of Moet & Chandon from the last party with U2) or a small child reading on cushions framed in a cathedral-like window.  Smallish, triangular windows dot the sloping walls, letting in light, and each one frames a unique cityscape.  Structural innards are exposed.  A catwalk and narrow spiral staircase lead to the "Globe" - a glass enclosed observation room with a 365-degree view of the city from 40 stories high!  Here's the slide show.

Quite quirky - and no thanks, I wouldn't live there - but fun to imagine nonetheless.

A few of my favorite things: design, food, public health

Today's NYTImes Op-Ed includes a graphic, Lunch Line Redesign,  that illustrates how some simple design tweaks lead to better, healthier choices in the school cafeteria.  Design tweaks like fruit in a large fruit bowl, rather than a flat metal pan, increased sales.  An ice cream freezer with a closed opaque top reduced ice cream sales.  And an express line for healthy lunches (no chips or dessert) doubled sales for healthy sandwiches.

All of this is indeed very cool, as the US faces an obesity epidemic, and healthy fresh food options must find their way into our behavioral choices.  If these design fixes can help subtly influence these choices - not just our nutritional knowledge alone - then all the better.

Recently, I've found myself in two sandwich chains - Au Bon Pain and Panera Bread Company - which post calorie counts on the billboard menus from which I ordered.  On each occasion, I subconsciously considered the 2 or 3 most appealing selections, and then steered toward the lowest calorie option of those.  I made some assumptions in these choices - for example, that the calories were relatively equal in nutritional value - protein, fiber, Vitamin A or iron content, etc.  I also assumed that the calorie counts were wrong (having been tested in some food lab somewhere, and likely varied slightly, and likely for the worse, by food preparer).  Still, I assumed the relative calorie counts among the various choices still held true.  All this, in the flash of a few milliseconds of decision-making in the mind of a relatively well-informed, health conscious person.

Lots of disciplines melded here - and I appreciate the interdisciplinary application of design, public health, behavioral psychology, and economics.  I wonder how all this plays out in other choices we make - spending decisions, condom use, working out, etc.  I also wonder if school lunches are any less gross than they used to be.    

Tuesday, October 19, 2010

Merger Meeting

  TV screen shot from Thunderbirds.  (c) 2010 Vegitect

Words We Love Too Much

The NYTimes has a fabulous blog on English grammar, usage, and style.  This post on Words We Love Too Much discusses the Times' overuse and misuse of the word "epononymous."  Epononymous is hardly a word that rolls off the tongue, and it certainly slows down the fingers on the keyboard, yet the Times used this highfalutin word 64 times in the last year!

Highfalutin, on the other hand, does seem more commonly used in every-week-or-so language, yet I certainly had no clue how to spell it until I just checked.  The more commonly used "highbrow" is probably in daily use.

I love words, language, grammar, and punctuation (the last being my weakness).  One of my favorite books is Eats Shoots and Leaves  on how punctuation use and misuse can really alter the meaning and intent of a written sentence, often to humorous (to a nerd) effect.
Eats Shoots and Leaves has been adapted to a younger audience, intended for those in grades 1 to 3.  Here, "Eat here, and get gas," or "Eat here and get gas"  really illustrates the critical importance of proper comma use!

Monday, October 18, 2010

Michelle Obama: Re-Fashionista

The last 24-hours have been nothing, if not intense.  You know - board meetings & merger deals, and trying not to look, care or get upset while watching my ex's life implode or freak out about how that might ultimately affect me and Dear Daughter.   Sigh. It all seems heavier now than it will with some perspective, some sleep, and a good swim....But in the meantime, I'll distract myself with some fluff and stuff.

Stuff like Michelle Obama's wardrobe - and some good re-use of basic pieces and accessories.  Black jacket, green pumps, wide black belt, yellow cardigan, white bow blouse provide great inspiration for her multi-purpose, but singular, style....check it out for yourself here at the Yahoo! slideshow.  It takes a time and some initial investment to build a stable of go-to wardrobe basics and stylish accents that can be cleverly and creatively re-purposed  to express one's personal style (particularly as a public figure with constant media documentation).  Michelle Obama has a great eye and fabulous fashion sense that will serve as some inspirational, diversionary tactic to me, far away from my other cares.

Monday, October 11, 2010

Banh Mi. Yummy.

Banh mi - or as we say in Philly - a Vietnamese hoagie - is the ultimate fusion cheap street food.  A hoagie - Philadelphia's version of a sub sandwich - long soft roll, filled with meat, veg, and condiments - is a Philadelphia specialty.  Italian hoagies are a particular regional delicacy from the Old World - filled with the best Italian cured meats (salami, cappicola, prosciutto) cheese (a nice sharp provolone), lettuce, tomato and splashed with oil and vinegar (never mayo - oh horror!) on a Sarcone's long roll.

But a fabulous twist on the hoagie has become popular in Philadelphia and other cities.  This Banh mi - Vietnamese sandwich - is filled with pulled chicken, crisp carrots, cucumber, cilantro, and a fishy aioli was fresh-delish.  A pulled pork version is available, as is a vegetarian one with tofu and crunchy fresh Asian vegetables like daikon.  We lunched at this two-seater hole-in-the-wall today before heading back to DC - Cafe Nuh y (806 Christian Street, Philadelphia).   Other options around the city are reviewed here in Philadelphia Weekly.  Yum.

Street Scene: South Street, Philadelphia

OMG! Here's an excellent quiz on world religion

From the Pew Research Center national survey on religious knowledge, we learned that Americans don't actually know an awful lot about it - not about their own self-professed religion, and certainly less about anyone else's.  Self-identified atheists scored highest.

Here's a pop quiz from NYTimes  columnist Nicholas Kristof.  Admittedly, I did not do so well - 3 or 4 correct answers out of 13. And I hardly count those because I was either guessing or trying to psych out the test objective.  The quiz focuses on more extremist views of social and moral values, and it illustrates that religious tenets are more complicated and nuanced than one might be led to believe from the geopolitical bent of media and crazy, uninformed religious and political extremists....(Grrrrr....don't get me started).  I like that several questions on the quiz have more than one correct response.  Well-researched and provocative, it makes one stop and think.  Too bad, so many people don't bother doing so.

Saturday, October 9, 2010

Lumenhaus: Design within Reach

Congratulations to the Virginia Tech team for winning the 2010 Solar Dacathalon Europe!  Their beautiful Lumenhaus (gorgeous film and interactive site) incorporates beautiful eco-design principles, and its infinite flexibility to upsize and downsize off the central module over a lifetime makes it even more ingenious.

The small 580 ft2 footprint looks and feels more expansive with the connections of the inside with the outside, the abundance of natural light from its wide windows, and its adaptable, multi-use spaces.  I am taken with the passive heating and cooling of the sliding screens and perforated panels that invite or deflect sun, or allow for a lovely cross ventilation.  I'm also in love with the adaptability of the central module - the way the table can be wheeled out to the pavilion patio (a new room in nice weather), and the kitchen counter detaches to additional counter space.  And as mentioned, the central, most expensive pod with the solar cells and controls, can have plugged in shells to expand up to a 4-5BR/2BA house as the family grows, and back down again in downsizing and empty-nesting  How marvelous is that? There's also all sorts of eco-tech features, that I hardly get, like bio-filitering grey water, rain catchment, and a smartgrid that works with the local utility company, both providing energy back to the grid and allowing a data feedback for its own use.  

The linked interactive feature here at the NY TImes gives a better tour and explanation than I ever could, so please check it out.

Thursday, October 7, 2010

What do you want to be when you grow up?

Dear daughter and I were having an early morning conversation today while snuggling in bed before facing the day.  Lights still out, shades still drawn, talking in soft voices - a wonderful moment that I hope to preserve in my heart because she is growing so fast (It's not a cliche, I swear!).  We were talking about what she wants to be when she grows up:

Dear Daughter: "If I can't be a rock star, I want to be a fashion model. If I can't be a fashion model, I want to be a detective. If I can't be a detective, I want to be a hair stylist."
Mama: "How about a teacher?
DD: "Yeah, if not a hair stylist, then a teacher."
Mama:
"How about president of [my Non-Profit Organization]?
DD:
"No, by the time I'm working you'll be retired."
M:
"How about President of the United States?"
DD:
"No, too hard."
M:
"How about a judge?"
DD:
"No because if my friends were having a challenge, and I liked them all, I couldn't decide."
M:
"How about a doctor? Or a nurse?"
DD:
"I don't want to see naked children," she says with a grossed-out look on her face in the dim light.
M:
"How about a scientist?"
DD: "No, that's not me. I like fancy stuff."


She is nothing, if not a marvel.  She knows herself, and I can't say I disagree with her assessments.  I will love watching her grow up.

Monday, October 4, 2010

Sex Research

The results of a national sex research study were released today from Indiana University's Center for Sexual Health Promotion.  The findings are interesting, but not too shocking.  And phew! - it seems, I am, in fact, "normal."  The study was underwritten by Trojan, the condom company, and has the largest, most comprehensive sample size in almost 20 years, across a wide age range of 14 to 94 .  You can read it for yourself, but overall, it seems we're not doing so great on condom use (particularly among the 40+ age group), and we have a wide variety of sexual behaviors to keep ourselves and our partners happy.

I have always been interested in sex.  "Duh - who isn't?" you say.  But really, I am especially interested in sex - and not only from a personal pleasure point of view, but also from a sexual health perspective.  As a teenager, on Sunday nights, I'd listen to Dr Ruth (Westheimer) late into the night.  In high school, I bought the Shere Hite 500+ page report on female sexuality at a used bookstore.  In my early 20's, I was a Dr. Drew (Pinsky) fan on radio's Loveline, before he became famous on MTV.  And, as mentioned in a recent post, I am a savage fan of Savage Love by Dan Savage.  I stayed home one evening when I was 25, planning my night around a PBS documentary on Alfred Kinsey, underwritten by Hugh Hefner and the Ford Foundation :-).  The good people are My Heroes for being frank, direct role models and spokespeople for healthy, informed, consensual, positive, pleasurable, communicative sex.

I was a Planned Parenthood supporter, long before I had even been kissed.  In college, I was a family planning counselor.  In grad school, I studied public health, with a focus on Population and Family Health, now more commonly known and practiced as Reproductive and Sexual Health and Rights. In my career, I've worked on family planning and reproductive health programs.  And not so long ago, I even had to discuss anal sex in a job interview.

Friday, October 1, 2010

I [HEART] maps; I [HEART] Philadelphia.

Graphic designer, Joel Katz, of the amazing city of Philadelphia has created a redesign of the map for city's regional public transit system.  While it is apparently geographically inaccurate - hmmm, seems sort of counterintuitive for a map, no? - it is apparently user-friendly and clearly lays out the order of stations, an important function of a transit map.

Personally, I find the map striking in its design - bold, simple, artistic - to be praised for its form, as well as its function.  The soft curves of each line is not a usual feature of a transit map - a lovely distinctive feature.  One really gets a sense of systems - public transit systems, flowcharts, bodily systems.  It reminds me of a  modern family tree, a scale, a collection of vases and urns.  I like the way the important stuff - Center City, the major subway and elevated lines are bolder and more distinct than the secondary lines to suburbs.  I like the way Philly's two rivers - the Delaware and the Schuykill - are displayed as washes of light blue ribbons.

Born a city-child, I began taking the subway to my public school in seventh grade (Lombard to Spring Garden stations) through high school (Lombard to Olney stations) on the Broad Street line.  I think I turned out OK.

From my sub-conscious

I had an erotic dream about one of my colleagues last night.

M is beardless and on the shorter-than-average side - so not my natural "type."  Nonetheless,  I find his dorkiness charming, his humor sharp, and his intellect impressive - indeed, qualities that are part-and-parcel of my natural type. In real life, I enjoy our rapport and all his endearing qualities have led to a closeness and chemistry between us (the boundaries of work and his marriage are fully respected!), and which occasionally leads to some involuntary fantasizing (on my part, at least) during management meetings.  We have been working particularly closely together recently, including a nice business dinner the other evening with a third party with delicious food and wine, and delightful conversation.   And last night, the whole thing played out in my sub-conscious...

Thursday, September 30, 2010

"It Gets Better"...Bullying, hate, privacy, the Internet and hope in the 21st Century

I am utterly sickened by the news that a 18yo, freshman college student and musician, Tyler Clementi, took his own life by jumping off the George Washington bridge after his idiot roommate webcammed and webcast his intimate encounters with another man.  It seems that roommate, Dharun Ravi, and another classmate, Molly Wei, got their kicks from capturing, streaming, and broadcasting Clementi's personal, private, sexual life without permission.  And Clementi, ultimately decided that the mortification was too much too handle, and well, jumped...

Ravi and Wei's thoughtless act clearly illustrates blatant bullying, extreme homophobia, and a tremendous violation of privacy rights.  Many want to prosecute their act as a hate crime - and while I realize this is likely a strong interpretation of the laws - I can't help but believe their utter disregard for another being's dignity led to his suicide.  And yes, they should be fully prosecuted, punished, and suffer long and hard for their heinous behaviors. Some say they are young, and naive...but at what time, if ever, are young people accountable for basic respect and civility of other human beings?  They are of age, after all.

I suppose I'm equally troubled by the technology of webcam's remote surveillance and  the World. Wide.Web. streaming that allows this to happen so easily; the erosion of privacy in today's society (I, too have given over my privacy in this social networked world; though I have profound respect for the right to privacy, and the critical ability of one to have agency over one's own privacy); and the magnitude of web posting in perpetuity.  This is the profoundly evil side of of the advancements of social networks and digital technology.

Ironically, this suicide happened on the second day of Rutgers University campaign "Project Civility" which would "involve panel discussions, lectures, workshops and other events to raise awareness about the importance of respect, compassion and courtesy in everyday interactions.  Events scheduled for this fall include a workshop for students and administrators on residential life on campus and a panel discussion titled 'Uncivil Gadgets? Changing Technologies and Civil Behavior.'"

Sadly, this bigoted, technology-enabled behavior is not limited to young college students.  It is also  an affliction of our public servants.

Friday, September 24, 2010

Michelle Rhee - Rant and Rave (my 25 cents)

Alas, my mayoral candidate, Adrain Fenty, did not win the primary last week, so it is looking more and more likely that his hand-picked, school reform champion and My Hero, Michelle Rhee, will not remain the Chancellor of the District of Columbia Public Schools.  At least that what it looks like here after Rhee and likely mayor-elect Vince Gray met yesterday. (Photo cribbed from the Internet)

As a mom to a child in the DC public schools, I'm pretty discouraged.  Rhee has been a reformer in the true sense of the word, bringing in sweeping and widespread change.  And while I'm usually not much of a radical - I believe that change is generally incremental and requires process - when the situation is as dire as it was when she arrived on the scene, there is no other choice in the matter than to be monomaniacal (City Paper's word - but I love it - check out their other endorsements for the primary, a total hoot!). Seriously, DCPS was an utterly failing system - poor performance, ineffective teachers, crumbling infrastructure, and a systems failure on everything from the timely delivery of textbooks to the opening of schools on time.  And yet somehow, in America, in Washington, DC (our Nation's Capital) that had become good enough.  Good enough for public school, good enough for urban schools, good enough for poor people, good enough for blacks.  Sorry, but that status quo is just plain unacceptable.  

Rhee didn't have the time nor the charge to fix things with finesse and pretty dancing - she needed to make tough, hardcore decisions - and frankly she had results to show for it.  Enrollment stabilized and went up for the first time in years.  Test performance improved.  Infrastructure improvement and schools modernization was plain staggering.  And she took a stand against ineffective teachers - she fired them!  hundreds of them! at a time!  Ouch, ok, that's harsh, and hard, and it did not win her many fans...except people like me who sort of sat there stunned, thinking, "Wow, she's brave...and I'm scared shitless of her."

Wednesday, September 22, 2010

Woohoo! Capital BikeShare, Washington, DC

It's finally here!  Capital BikeShare launched in DC on Monday!  This officially makes DC one of the coolest (and underrated) cities in the US.  It's not Seattle (coffee city), Portland (alt-hip city), San Francisco (gorgeous, hilly city), Boston (university city), New York (city of all cities)...but it is doing pretty well, and damn it, no one knows!

Capital BikeShare is one of the largest bike share programs in the country, and the only regional one (serving both DC and Arlington, Virginia).  It has 1100 bikes and 110 bike stations, spread across all 8 wards of the District, and into Crystal City, VA.  Fantastic!  If you're not familiar with Capital BikeShare, then perhaps you know Velib (Paris), Bixi (Montreal), Bici (Barcelona), and Barclay's Cycle Hire (London).  And if you don't know those, then think of Zipcar, only for bikes.

Essentially a fleet of bikes is available for member (or day) hire anytime and anywhere.  The system encourages short rides to keep the bikes in circulation - so for members (or day users), the first 30 minutes is free, with low, but increasing, fees for 30+ minutes.  I paid $50 for a year membership, and expect to take full advantage of the network of bike stations near my home, work and social hubs (Dupont, H Street NE, and Capitol Hill).

I took my first ride yesterday - from my doctor's appointment (using the nearest bike station at Dupont & Massachusetts NW) to my work (using the station at 14 & Rhode Island NW).  So, how'd it go? In a single word, GREAT!  In a few more words...

Top 10 Reasons I Haven't Blogged Lately...

  1. I've been busy writing strategy memos for work - about 1-2 per week - and it's sucking up all my writing bandwidth.
  2. I'm tired in the evening, making me incoherent and inarticulate.
  3. I'm not particularly inspired these days.
  4. When I am inspired, it's at the wrong time, and I lose the occasion to blog.
  5. I'm confused - not all in a bad way - and so my thoughts are coming out all jumbled. 
  6. My blog has lost some of its anonymity, so to protect the innocent....
  7. My own version of ADD is acting up...I am easily distracted these days.
  8. I'm busy -  booked with some obligation or other from 6:45 in the morning to 9:00 in the evening.
  9. The few waking hours not booked, are reserved for chilling and doing nothing, so my poor brain can get a break.
  10. I'm not really sure where this blog is going.
Sigh...oh well...in general, this is an immensely therapeutic and creative outlet for me, so hope to get back soon!

Wednesday, September 8, 2010

Sex Bomb, Mom, and Senior Strategist

Work has been intense lately.  A good intense, I guess, as I'm working on stuff that really excites me.  But also draining.  I have very little energy left each day to write or laugh.  Or do other things that make me a healthy, happy me.  On days like this, I long for simplicity.  I long for an end to the requests and demands.  A day of quiet.  A day of solitude.  A day without worries.

I took a swim this morning, as part of the Sanity Plan.  I've had so little time for this critical activity that keeps my stress down, my thoughts worked through and put away.  It worked.  I left for work this morning with energy and sass.  I bounded up escalator steps.  What?!?!  Bounded?!?  Up??!?! The escalator?  To go to work?

My energy lasted until around noon, and then the day wore me down in the way it has these last few weeks.  By the end of the day, I was frayed.  Tightly wound.  Completely wrung-out.

And now, I'm still frayed.  And tired.  And not just physically tired.  Or mentally tired.  But tired of this stupid treadmill.  Burned out from the slog.  Tired, perhaps, of being all things to all people.  Sex Bomb, Mom & Senior Strategist.  Tired of taking care of everyone.  I try to take care of myself - and sometimes I succeed, but lately, it's been hard (Bummer, for real.  I was getting so good at it!)

And sometimes, I want someone else to take care of it all.  Or at least just share the load.  And every once in a while take care of me...."Honey, what do you need?"  Or better yet, "I did this for you."  And I want to cry (like I am now) and lean in, lean against him and just sob for a few minutes.  "I'm tired," I'd say.  "It's not that easy."

Tuesday, August 31, 2010

(Not your usual) Vacation Photo Album - Jersey Shore edition

As we do every year, dear daughter and I headed to the New Jersey Shore to spend a week with Grandma and Grandpa, aunts, uncles and cousins.  This album includes some of my favorite shots, and while not exactly the family photo album and vacation postcards,  it somehow tells a story about my life.



Sometimes I wonder who is that person driving that car with the adult and kiddie bikes strapped on the back.  Loaded down with luggage & groceries, sand toys & beach chairs.  Going to the beach with the masses on I-95 for that one week vacation in August - the middle class American family rite of passage.  I have an out-of-body experience when I see this picture - it's me, but it's not me, too.

Wawa!  It's a Philly thing.  An annual pit stop.  Italian hoagies (with oil & vinegar - never mayo - on an Amoroso roll), Herr's chips, TastyKake Butterscotch Krimpets.  Ice-cold Lemonade-Iced Tea.  Vacation has started.

Contemplating the "thin black line" of the horizon.  Plastics: Made in China.



And from those dark swells, a sea monster emerged.
Boardwalk Rides - more summer traditions.  I love the pop of the colors here, and more so, the adolescent boys, caught unaware - aloof & chillin'.

This is my favorite ride. I still love swings at the playground.  This ride turns swinging into flying.  Sheer joy.


I love the dock, behind the house where we stay, at all times of day, in all kinds of weather.
This year, Dear Daughter, aka The World's Newest Swimmer, summoned the courage to jump off the dock. 


Arts:  Crayola Day-Glo paint and black Sharpie marker on seashell.

Business: Entrepreneurial daughter sets up alternative to the lemonade stand, selling painted seashells to passers-by.

Philanthropy:  All proceeds are donated to a charitable cause (Children's Hospital of Philadelphia).

Another gorgeous dinner at sunset on the back porch.

Sunday, August 22, 2010

Blech...

I feel like crap.  Sometimes this happens to me.  It can happen at anytime, but it often happens as August, and more so late August, hits.  I think the lack of structure and routines get to me, too.  Dear Daughter is out of school, and we're trying to fill her days.  And work does not let up.  For all my talk of lemonade, ice cream, carefree days at the beach, baseball games, grilling, and gin & tonics - it does not overcome the heat, humidity, the unannounced storms (and floods), the bugs (and the bug bites), the sweat, the sun damage to my protesting fair skin, and the general malaise I get as summer drags on and on and on.  And on.  So by this time of year, I'm just over it.  Done.  Thank you very much.

Maybe I'd like summer more if I spent a long stretch in a cabin, on a lake, sitting on the porch, reading, writing, cooking, going for a swim - two, three, four times a day...to the floating dock about 100 meters offshore.   And skinny dipping at night, floating on my back looking at the sea of stars above, picking out a constellation or two.  

I had a summer like that.   Two summers, in fact - on Lake Spitfire in the Adirondacks.  Skinny dippin', constellation pickin',  floatin' dock and all.  I was a teenager - sixteen and seventeen years old, joining a family I used to babysit for.    My teenage boyfriend and I wrote long love missives to each other lamenting the weeks apart, and making heated plans for a torrid reunion in the fall..  The memories are vivid - over twenty years later.  There was no access by car - only boat, and I had access to the Boston Whaler to get from our cabins to the main dock through the channel over to Upper St. Regis.  I suppose there were bugs there - but I don't remember them.  I do know as summer went on, it was cool enough to light a fire in the fireplace at night.  And on my late summer swims, I nearly froze my ass off - but skinny-dipped anyway - shivering - because I knew that summer nights were drawing to a close.   I love swimming, and I love skinny dipping even more (and just wish there were more real opportunities to do so).

I think these were the best summers of my life.  Or at least when I want to conjure up an image of peace, tranquillity, contentment  - my perfect place - I think of there and then, or even There and Now.

Tuesday, August 10, 2010

August in Paris

Apparently, I'm trying to emulate the French by taking off the month of August.  Dog Days of August as we say here.  In any case, I'm not writing much lately.  Be back soon!

Sunday, August 1, 2010

Sunday Summer Lunch

Today, my Francophone friends came over for a lovely Sunday afternoon visit during their Stateside vacation.  They moved back abroad from DC two years ago, and I miss them dearly.  But we picked up immediately with good food and conversation, and the three girls played wonderfully together, so the adults could have our talks and laughs.

The composed Salade Nicoise was both delicious and beautiful - with it's summertime tomatoes and green beans from the Farmer's Market; new potatoes with a snappy dijon vinaigrette and chives from my herb garden, tuna mixed with a bit of olive oil, salt, and parsley - also from the garden- and briny black and green olives.  I had picked up a good multigrain bread at the bakery - seeds and raisins - spread with sweet cream butter.  Wonderful.

Thursday, July 29, 2010

A few of my favorite things...Now, found together!

I love metrics.  I love blogging.  Now Blogger.com is letting me have the two together!  Blogger has now provided a "Stats" tab on my "Dashboard" to see my "views" and "hits" metrics.  I have resisted the temptation to install third party software on my blog to see what kind of traffic I have (if any - I *never* assume).  Now, I can get a little insight on my stats by day, week, month, and alltime...and it's really cool!

While there is lots I don't know from these stats (don't worry lurkers and followers, I can't see you), here are some of the things I do know....

Street Style: H Street NE

Kickin' on H Street NE!  Some fab street style sense (for all ages and stages).

Sunday, July 25, 2010

Tabletop


I [HEART] Carolyn Hax (on casual dating)

Carolyn Hax is so wise....I really enjoyed this particular column because of the way the writer expressed his feelings about his girlfriend (fair enough, and quite clear); the way Hax talked about how to navigate that line and the premise it's built upon; and because I'm casually dating (or trying to anyway).

Some excerpts are below....and the full link to the column ("He's not that into her; how clear should he make that?") is here.
Dear Carolyn:  I am having fun with my girlfriend but am well aware she's not marriage material for me. She says she is fine with dating casually for now. I know girls sometimes say this and don't mean it, so what's my responsibility here? To keep reminding her that it's not headed anywhere? That seems like such a buzzkill.  Anonymous
Why is she good enough to date but not good enough to marry?  Carolyn:
She's just . . .

Saturday, July 24, 2010

I [HEART] my new iPhone!

I never thought a phone could make me so happy.  Seriously, after waiting for almost two years to indulge in an iPhone, my iPhone 4 arrived on Tuesday.  At first, I was scared - what if I was disappointed?  What if the hype was just hype?  It is very expensive after all.  But after the first day of tentatively getting to know each other, I've gone from having a crush from afar to full fledged love AND lust.

I was a tiny bit disappointed by the look of the upgrade. They say it's smaller and slimmer than the previous iPhone, but I find it's edges a bit hard, sharp, and well...edgy.  Its predecessor, the iPhone 3G, is smooth and rounded, like a river stone in your pocket (or purse), and I'd liked that zen sensibility.    But I am not that superficial, and nothing is perfect, so I have squinted my 40-ear old eyes a bit  for a more forgiving and softening focus, and you know what?,  it's really quite handsome.  In fact, so sexy that...

Wednesday, July 21, 2010

Capital BikeShare

Woohoo!  Lots of proposed Capital BikeShare stations near my house and on my routes....near my metro station, G's school, EMarket, bars on 8th Street and H Street, Frager's hardware, Lincoln Park, Nationals Park, and supermarket.

Tuesday, July 20, 2010

Ground-breaking gamechanger for women's health

At the International AIDS Conference in Vienna promising results were shared from a clinical trial of a microbicide to be used by women for HIV prevention.  This is great news indeed.  Since the beginning of the epidemic, one of the frustrating things has been that a woman has no way to protect herself from HIV infection without depending on her partner in some way.  All three methods of HIV prevention require some degree of cooperation from her guy:
  • condom use - ultimately it's his call; 
  • mutual monogamy between two HIV-negative partners  - again, she can be as monogamous as she wants, but it won't necessarily protect her if he is not - and vice versa, of course, though sadly the monogamy deck is stacked against her in many cultures and countries where there is high HIV prevalence; and 
  • abstinence  - well, we all know how that goes! - not only is it exceedingly challenging between two people with any sort of chemistry and hormones, it's really a non-starter for many woman (and of course, in the case of rape, coerced and otherwise involuntary sex).  In places like Africa, where HIV prevalence is high, partner communication is low, and pressure for married couples to make babies is strong, the notion of refusing sex or insisting on condom use, even if she perhaps suspects he may be infected or at risk, in a marriage setting just won't fly
So where does that leave a woman in Johannesburg where HIV infection is 18% (or anywhere else for that matter)?  Up the creek without a paddle in terms of taking control of her health and life, with any sort of viable option to protect herself from HIV infection.  An effective microbicide could change that.

Clinical trials for microbicides (vaginal gels that can be applied to neutralize the virus and protect from infection) have been going on for years have had mixed results, at best. The news of this study is ground-breaking and could change the HIV prevention landscape.   In this particular clinical trial in South Africa, prevention of transmission os not 100% failsafe, only significantly reduced.  Researchers want to improve the efficacy, continue with additional trials, and if viable, get this thing to market ASAP.

Fabulous news! (Sometimes I miss practicing public health).

Vienna: Hollman-Beletage Hotel

observatrice exhibitioniste voyeuse

Drawing the bath, she walked naked along the perimeter of the room tending to things.  The curtains of the large windows were open to the anonymous city outside.  This quiet, dead-end street had few passers-by, and housed a small cafe with about five occupied tables this evening and a hotel across the street.  Most of those rooms were quiet - either dark or curtains drawn with hints of light around the edges, sometimes bluish - hinting at the residents inside and their televisions.

One room directly across, and just slightly down a level had some movement in it.  A couple had entered from their evening out, and were settling in for the night.  The bedside table light was on and the curtains were open, as they each went about readying for sleep.  The man was in his early 50's, dark hair, glasses - definitely European, as evidenced by the shape of his glasses; his casual, but polished, style; and graceful, distinguished ageing.  As the wife disappeared into the bathroom, he removed his pants and sweater, leaving on a white button-down shirt and dark briefs.  He sat on the edge of the bed - his side - and looked out the window.

Aware she could be seen, the bather approached the window, and looked outside into the night towards the sky, as if contemplating tomorrow's weather.  The windowsill came to about the level of her hips baring her upper torso - breasts most prominently on display, hair pulled back in a loose twist, with strands  astray falling about her face, the curve of her hips and ass.  She turned towards the closet just beside the window and opened it, her body still visible in profile.  She pretended to look for something, perhaps tomorrow's clothes - she bent down towards the shoes, stretched upwards towards the tee-shirt sitting on the closet shelf.  She turned back toward the window, and they looked straight at each other.

She left the window, busied herself again about the room, turned off the bathwater - it could wait -and considered her next move.  She adjusted the lighting in the room to create balance of both shadows and visibility, and walked back towards the window.  Again, he looked out as her figure darkened the window frame.  She glanced towards him and pretended not to notice, as she again contemplated the sky, then the cafe down below, and the closet.  He remained looking out right towards her window, but also made no acknowledgment of her presence.  Unable to linger any longer, and not sure what to do next, she busied herself about the room - arranging the papers and magazines, pouring a glass of water.

A few moments later, she returned to her windowside perch.  He was lying in bed, now wearing a charcoal grey tee, reading a book, the sheets were pulled across his thighs.  His wife was now beside him, alike, except in a light blue tee, also reading a book.  They mirrored each other in their bedside reading.  The lone bather looked out, and saw him look away from his book and towards her window.  She wondered if - she hoped- he was sufficiently distracted to perhaps kiss his wife good night and run his hand along her thigh - an advance - and then she could watch their coupling.  The bather and the reader did their rounds a few more times - she leaving her window, returning, he glancing away from his book towards her - but both he and his wife never left their reading positions, and eventually the game of the bather and the handsome stranger ran its course.

The bather was disappointed he hadn't touched his wife.  Or perhaps, if their life was how she grimly imagined, they couldn't remember the last time they made love, even vacation sex, and the wife would have been surprised by his move or rebuffed him.  Or perhaps he was not prepared with his Viagra.  Had she been more bold, or even slightly more practiced at nude city-night people-watching (perhaps even next time), the bather might have lingered longer and more purposefully at the window, leaning in to look up the street toward the corner, or even ran her hand along her sides, and absentmindedly touched her breasts, even traced her nipples - as if he had caught her in a private reverie - as if.  Perhaps, if this were true Penthouse letters, she would have been brasher still - directly acknowledging him, letting her hands wander more deliberately, or even signaled to him to make a move on his wife, so she could watch for all of their excitement.  But not that either, and likely not that ever.

Following her bath, in which her mind wandered to the possibilities and pondered the thoughts of the man across the street, she, too, put on her bed clothes - a navy tee, and loose cotton pants, no underwear, and slept with the light sheet twisted around her body.  She awoke in the early morning light, the curtains were still open, and looked across the street.  They were both sleeping.  A few minutes later, he was reading and she had left the bed.  In the broad daylight, her presence at the window did not change anything like it had in the night lights.  She readied herself for the day, and when she looked out the window again before heading for breakfast, they were both gone.

Monday, July 19, 2010

Magnetic Poetry Set for the UN

I've been in Vienna for one of those big international meetings.  In this case, it's the International AIDS Conference that takes place every 2 years (next one in DC in 2012).  To be more precise, I've been at a pre-conference symposium of about 450 people, as well as some smaller meetings.  The global conference has about 20,000 people and starts today - which is why I'm skipping town and heading home.  I enjoy my work on most days, and I used to do even more of this global hob-nobbing, but I grew weary and had other interests in life besides moving the gears of international bureaucracy, so I've moved in a slightly different direction.  Still when I'm back in the game, I get jazzed to be among my people talking about our stuff.  Increasingly though, I'm a little glazed and slightly dazed at these things. As an outsider, I find myself slightly bemused in our meetings, where we speak alot and say nothing, so I've decided to develop a magnetic poetry set for attending global meetings.  String together any of the below words and phrases, and you can participate, too!

inclusion     participation     participatory    comprehensive    inform    disseminate    society    community    community-based    healthcare systems     access     quality services      reduction    elimination    virtual elimination   eradicate    alleviate    women and children    safety and security    society    reach     researchers and practitioners     create     develop    support     strengthen    most vulnerable     affirm    re-affirm    commit    re-commit    progress    adequate progress   appropriate     process     measure    civil society     contribute    empower   reach    bringing together    chronicle and document   joint-efforts    gatekeepers    entry points   advance   rigor   robust evidence    knowledge gap    action   efforts   initiative     challenges and opportunities     stakeholders    partnerships   public-private partnerships    outcomes    results     resources   goals   2012   2015   programmes    
                    

Sunday, July 18, 2010

Wien Tour

I have little time to explore and observe on these work trips.  In fact, today, Sunday, I had a meeting from 10am until noon, and later on I have a reception at 6pm.  In between though, I took a quickie self-guided  tour of Vienna to get a better sense of its feel and flavor.  Admittedly, I was pretty efficient, this was definitely the 10-minute overview, but I got a decent sense of some of the city, and a sneak preview for my next visit someday when I come back on a real vacation with my lover.

It started with the U-bahn, a very good subway system with some of my favorite public transit amenities - clear signage; good, conceptual maps; the timing of the next train; and good subway car layout, with priority seats marked  for elderly, handicapped, and exhausted, swollen pregnant women.

I headed towards my meeting at the Vienna International Centre (the VIC, as I now affectionately call it) in the newest part of the city which houses the United Nations complex.  Quite honestly, it is horrid.  The buildings are pretty "Bloc-ish," and there is very little sidewalk-scape or civic life.  Large expanses of concrete pose as sweeping plazas.  This quarter must have been designed by a UN sub-committee.

(Tour more of Vienna... wacky architecture, Klimpt's Kiss, a streetside freak show, Mozart's sex life, and the perfect Viennese cafe!!... after the link.)

Friday, July 16, 2010

Capital BikeShare Launching this Fall

Woohoo!  The Capital BikeShare program is launching this fall!  As I've discussed in this blog before, city bike share programs are the coolest for quick destination rides getting about the neighborhood.  Just like Paris Velib!  While SmartBike, run by marketing firm Clear Channel, made DC hip just for trying, the 150 bikes in 15 stations were just plain measly.  And SmarkBike, whose program will end with the new one's launch, doesn't even compare to the 1000 bikes at 100 stations throughout DC of the new program.  Now we're we're talking Paris cool*.  And London cool, too!  Barclay's Cycle Hire program launches there on July 30.

*Actually I read in one commentary on the program that to be comparable to Velib in density of bikeshares per capita, DC would need about 5400 bikes.  I also read in sleuthing this that another 1000 bikes for program expansion are planned in a matching grant proposal.  Exciting!

From my sub-conscious

Last night's dream involved a camping and barbecue party on a beach bluff with a summer cottage.  My dream boyfriend* was fishing for dinner from a nearby creek, and then prepared the whole fish beautifully with some seasoning for grilling, lovingly presenting it to me.  I smiled, touched by his generous efforts, but my softened heart also sunk for I knew something he did not know.  Amongst the many people in our group, my dream former boyfriend** was also there, and they were about to encounter each other.  We all did our best to act like nothing was up between or among any party in the love triangle, but everyone was extremely uncomfortable.

Alone, I skipped over some dunes to find a little beach cove, and saw a family of whales breaching in the open sea beyond. Later, I magically swam with two baby whales in the little intlet that opened out from our private beach. Back on the bluff, stars in the night sky, people had broken into small groups laughing and chatting in lowered voices  or lovers leaning one against the other whispering to each other and into the darkness.  I couldn't find dream boyfriend, and knew he had gone to heal himself.  Dream former boyfriend had left.  I felt both happy (content swimming and being outside on a beautiful evening, taking care of myself)  and horrible, because I knew I had contributed to hurt feelings and tension.  I knew, in fact, not only that dream former boyfriend would be there, but in fact, I had invited both men without sharing in advance what each was headed for.  The sub-conscious of my sub-conscious even knew that I had played the whole thing for my own ego, and to show each what he had or did not have.  I awoke from the dream feeling guilty, but aware, and knowing the way forward.

Later, I dozed again in the early hours of the morning, and fell back into the dream.  This time, I found dream boyfriend at his home, hurt and withdrawn.  I begged forgiveness, a genuine lump in my throat, tears in my eyes.  "I'm so sorry," I said, holding forth my arms for both comfort and forgiveness.  He hesitated, which I deserved, but then came towards me for which I was relieved and grateful, and knew I would not take for granted.  We kissed, and sighed.  I knew this is where I wanted to be.

* an amalgam of several men I've known and cared for
** no one I recognized

ETA - There were two parts of this dream that stood out for me.  First, the more obvious one of the relationship dynamics, my role in manipulating them, and the sincere realization, almost revelation, that that was not what I wanted to do.  The second very poignant element of the dream was the joy of being outside and keeping things in their most natural state - catching, seasoning and grilling fish, the bluff, the dunes, the screened in porch of a summer cottage, a light breeze, swimming alone in a small, private cove. Those things were especially vivid and salient, and brought me an almost extreme measure of contentment that very much carried throughout the dream.

Thursday, July 15, 2010

Vienna: Hotel room (and an ice bath)

My hotel room is awesome - huge with 15-foot ceilings and two humongous windows overlooking the street. It is completely multifunctional for quality sleep, work, bathing, and chilling out , with lovely well-considered amenities.  It is spare, but smart.  Euro Chic all the way.  Its modern and minimalist design enchants me. But while I'm charmed by some of the smart design details, at the same time I can find this design aesthetic impractical (once it's actually functioning, all the clean lines are lost) and uncomfortable (a little welcoming warmth and softness goes a long way for me).

In front of the windows, two small leather chairs stand on either side of a table-cum-fridge.  The platform bed faces the two windows.  It has crisp white sheets and a fluffy white duvet, punctuated by orange and red textured throw pillows.  Its brown-leather upholstered backboard on one side serves as a long counter running along the other side, incorporating a sink and a desk.  Along another wall, a long alcove houses a sleek armoire, a stand-alone tub on a platform open to the room, and a literal water closet holding the toilet.

It has been a long day - actually a blend of three long days since my departure from home.  Today's 2-hour flight from London to Vienna was much, much more grueling than anticipated - altogether a 7-hour journey by taxi, train, and delayed plane, arriving at my hotel just after midnight.  My ultimate arrival in this room - where I will spend the next four nights - is a welcome relief.  But, also way damn hot.  It seems Vienna has been balmy these last days, and it is 80 degrees and humid even at this late hour.  The a/c is doing its best, but not really working.

First things first. I put on the CD of (Austrian) music provided in the CD player.   I crack open a (Austrian) beer from the minibar, open some (Austrian) peanuts, and cut up an apple.  And when my simple dinner is finished, I indulge in the chocolate truffle left by my bedside.  I'm satisfied, and starting to feel my travel-induced grouchy edge begin to smooth out.

Then, still uncomfortably hot, I strip naked to unpack my bags.  It's my habit to settle into a hotel room even for a night.  Hanging up clothes, charging my gadgets on the desk, laying my toothbrush and toothpaste on the sink, arranging my Vogue magazine (and The Economist) on the little table where I enjoyed  the peanuts and beer, placing my book on the nightstand.  The room is not cooling down, however, and I can feel sweat droplets running down my neck and back, one drips onto my foot.

Unpacked, but still sweaty and uncomfortable, I ponder my next move.  The bath beckons, and I run an icy one - all cold! - complete with the bubblebath the hotel has thoughtfully provided.  A cold bubble bath - this might be my first.  I turn off all the lights in the room, and brace myself for the chill as I alight the tub's platform.  The first dip is a bit of a shock, but soon, I'm enjoying the refreshing cool bath, the dark room, and being able to see out the window to the night street. At long last, I relax.

Wednesday, July 14, 2010

The Hill is Home

The Hill is Home is a wonderful neighborhood blog about my little community.  After 8 years living here, I'm so pleased how my urban village it is organically developing.  It is diverse, but there is a common thread of an envisioned community that exists for young and dull, old an hip, families and singles  And all its fabulous-ness is generating some Hill Buzz.

Friday, July 9, 2010

I [HEART] cities (and David Byrne)

A Talking Head Dreams of a Perfect City  I stumbled upon this great article by David Byrne (of all people?) in the Wall Street Journal (of all places?).  It talks about the best elements of cities  - size, density, scale, mixed use, security, with a little danger and chaos,  and a little attitude all its own.  I like the way he references elements of each with references to his favorite cities, and how these blend to make the perfect city.

Thursday, July 8, 2010

Grassroots Soccer

Excellent slideshow by photographer Jessica Hilltout on the grassroots soccer played throughout Africa on makeshift fields with soccer balls fashioned of rubber bands, stockings, and paper, and string.

Here's some amusing trivia from the accompanying article on Hilltrout's work.

The most oddly soulful of Ms. Hilltout’s images are of objects: the homemade balls fashioned by children from plastic bags, old socks and rags, tied up with string or strips of tree bark. Some children inflated condoms — commonplace and free on a continent beset by AIDS — wrapped them in cloth to make them heavy, then in plastic bags to seal them and finally bound them in twine. These ingenious, improvised balls bounce like real ones for a few days before the air escapes.
Hurray for Africa's ingenuity!

Revelations

It is my ideal to have a home-cooked sit-down family meal made of fresh, local food, plenty of veggies, and fish 2-3 times per week.

It is strategic when I do menu-planning, grocery shop weekly according to plan, prepare a make-ahead meal on Sunday for later in the week, and put the Farmer's Market on my calendar at work for every Thursday fromMay through November.

It is practical when I get the family fed, hopefully a reasonably healthy home-rprepared meal several times a week, with a fair amount of fruits and vegetables (often from Safeway), with little reliance eon junk food and take-out.  

The truth is I'm a working, single mom, with a full-time demanding job.  Sometimes the menus are not so well-planned.  Sometimes the weekly shopping is late or incomplete.  Sometimes I'm tired, and the kitchen is hot.  Sometimes the thing Dear Daughter wants to hear more than anything else  is, "Let's put on pj's, order pizza, and watch a video." (She is so thrilled, and this is a definite value trade over my ideal every once in a while).  Sometimes I need a treat and we go out for Mexican food, and I get a margarita. Every once in a while, we'll get an invitation to join another family at the pool on a Sunday and the make ahead meal is a no-go - another good value trade (and truth is that make-ahead meal doesn't get made all that often anyway). 

So what's my measurement of success?  I am certain to fail against my ideal.  It will never happen, and measuring myself against that is only obnoxious and demoralizing.  Against my strategic goals?  Well, certainly these help me strive for my ideal, and this gets accomplished some of the time.  But how did I do on a practical level?  Making the best of what life dealt that week?  Recognizing a good value trade even when it was in conflict to my ideal? On average,  did I - with my ideals in mind and strategies to realize them - make a healthy meal more often than not? On the balance does my family eat a good quality, balanced healthy diet?  Is takeout and junk food kept to a practical minimum?  I know when I'm slipping, and our takeout quotient is out of whack - it's usually externally driven.  Then back on track, back to plan, back to basics so I can succeed on a real-life level.


Wednesday, July 7, 2010

No subject

We're sorry.  La Nouvelle Observatrice is too hot, tired, uninspired, lazy, overextended, and overwhelmed (and underwhelmed, for that matter) to be her usual witty, brilliant, amazing, cool, fascinating self.  Please try again later.

Monday, July 5, 2010

What's left unsaid.

Louise filled the coffee pot with water, and measured out the coffee. One...two...three...she wasn't really counting; she stopped when it looked like enough. The empty wine bottle was on the counter from the night before. Recycle. There, the testament to the night was gone from their vision. "It's going to be a hot one. Ninety-five degrees." She turned toward the fridge, opened it up, and stared inside. "Do you want jam on your toast? I have blackberry." She closed the fridge again. Louise turned back toward the sink. She busied herself washing out the pan - running the water, watching the suds bubble over the rim, scrubbing the tiny black fleck of cooked-on dirt barely the size of her pinky nail with a green scouring pad. He looked on. "He must think I'm really diligent about pot-washing," she thought. She looked up at him, smiled, and looked away. "Do you know this song?  My sister loves it."  \She tried looking up again, and this time held his gaze for a moment longer. "I might go get a new filter for my a/c today.  \I don't know when the last time I replaced it was," she said, as if this were actually an interesting prospect for the day. "Coffee's ready. Do you take milk?," she said busying herself once again with two mugs, and two spoons, and the re-arranging of the fridge shelf to reach the milk. Her fingers touched his when she handed him the warm mug. They both lingered for a second, and then moved on.

The music on the stereo turned to something uptempo, a little too much for a lazy, unscripted morning.   She winced to herself.   She hadn't liked the silence either; she felt like she had to fill it.  But the music felt off, too - the wrong mood.  She wondered what the right mood music would be for the morning after.   Louise's thoughts resounded through her head like in a vast echo chamber. They were small, random, and probably inconsequential in the grand scheme of things, but they took up a lot of space, and they were hard to dodge.  Like a hundred superballs in a racquetball court.  They were loud and active - searching for an escape route.  But she had sealed off all openings, and held them in check.  Her thoughts clashed anyway, each one in direct conflict to the other.  They ricocheted off the walls in her head - and collided with each other with bounces and rebounds.  What was the point of letting any one of them out if the next one would contradict it anyway?

Sunday, July 4, 2010

Spanish-Inspired Summer Snacks



Inspired by Nigella Express, part of a longer, light dinner menu.


Parrano cheese with Fig Jam on Walnut Bread

Chick Pea and Spinach Salad
infused with cumin and sherry

Almonds

Cherries

Cava
chilled and sparkling


Friday, July 2, 2010

Top World Cup Players on Facebook, Day by Day

This makes for an interesting diversion - combine metrics, World Cup, Facebook, and what do you get?  Maybe nothing.  It seems sort of meaningless.  Or maybe it is a snapshot of where the world's hearts and minds are at a particular moment in time.  Or maybe what I like about it, if anything, is that data can be analyzed pretty easily in the digital age- where our very connected living allows for  a data set to be collected in real time and then be interpreted for something or other.
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